Larry and Jeanne Lamb celebrated their 62nd wedding anniversary with us this April, a gift from their children. When they arrived for check in, everyone in the office was sparkly eyed, as if star struck. We were all so excited to meet them and hear about how they made it to 62 years. I got the opportunity to meet with them briefly while they were settling into the Vignoles Suite.
Being a newlywed myself I had to know the secret, so I just came out and asked, “How do I make it to 62 years of marriage?”
Larry’s advice came first: “Whenever you get aggravated, always hold your tongue. Don’t say what you’d like to say.”
He shared that he gave this little piece of advice to a young man who had been divorced 3 times and the man replied, “So, THAT’s what I’ve been doing wrong!” as if to have an epiphany. I guess not all of us have such patience in this day and age.
I then asked Jeanne if she had any advice to share. She smiled, looked at Larry lovingly, and then began to explain that she knew she wanted to be with Larry for the rest of her life because he was a good Christian. She eventually summarized her view by saying, “Marry someone who has your same spiritual mindset as you, so you can always pray together.” I thought this was really endearing after she mentioned that she didn’t have a strong spiritual upbringing. She wanted to marry a strong spiritual leader, so she could attend church with her whole family; something she didn’t always have growing up.
The Lambs met each other at a summer camp when they were teenagers. It was love at first sight. They knew right away that they were meant to be together, although Jeanne knew before Larry. She shared a moment with us where she was sitting on top of a hill at camp, saw Larry and told her camp counselor, “That’s the boy I’m going to marry.” She tells the story in our video, here.
When I asked them what types of things they like to do, Larry mentioned that they play a game together, nearly every night, instead of watching television, as a means to winding down from their day. This seemed like a great way to keep a relationship fresh and real. I could imagine them laughing together every night as he was explaining their routine. We strive to provide couples with ways to reconnect in a similar way at Hermann Hill, with activities like our 3 Mile Walk to simply playing chess in the living room.
Life very often gets busy and we forget to cherish our spouse, who should be our best friend through everything. I really appreciated how Larry and Jeanne seemed like best of friends even after 62 years. Maybe if we can all learn to “hold our tongue” and “pray together” we can all make it to 62 years with our spouse. It seems like having some time to relax and having fun together on a regular basis could be part of the special formula as well.
Depending on the type of couple you are, Hermann Hill offers a variety of options of quiet sanctuary space for you and your spouse. From our premium spa rooms for couples that want to veg out to our luxury suites for couples that want to spend time out in town, we have something for every type of couple. If you’d like to plan a Hermann Hill anniversary celebration for your parents, friends or even a surprise for your spouse call 573-486-4455 and let us help you plan an anniversary to remember.